GETTING THE SEX LIFE THAT YOU WANT

If you have ever been in a long term relationship, married or not, you will agree that sex gets progressively difficult. When you find yourself in such a situation, the right steps have to be taken, otherwise your relationship and family (if you have one) will be destroyed by this. Always remember this; most people in long term relationships are having it rough, very rough. You don’t want to be them, at all, I suppose.

Statistics show that the two major causes of divorces are Money and Sex. Money comes first and sex second. I am not a financial expert so if you are having money problems, you might want to talk to the likes of Charles Soludo. As for sex, well, that’s what I am here for. Let us begin by understanding why long term sexual satisfaction is so difficult. Generally speaking, modern life as we know it today is very demanding, not just in Africa but everywhere else. The long tedious hours spent at work, the money that never seems to be enough, the lack of electricity,etc. Just weigh you down, not to talk of coming home to a house full of screaming kids. All these challenges just attack and steal the life you once had or hoped for. The other big killers of our sex lives are change and familiarity with our lovers. As the years pass bye, we get burdened with work and all kinds of responsibilities. Under such conditions, we loose focus, stop taking care of ourselves and cease to be exciting. It is at times like this that our husbands or wives accuse us of becoming different people, and they are right. People change.

The big question however is what to do when this happens. WE ADAPT AND CHANGE STRATEGY. That is what we do. If you do not remember anything else discussed in this article, please remember the word ADAPTATION. That is the key. Adapt or you are finished. You cannot always expect what worked for you five years ago to work now. Here is an example. A lot of women complain about not being in the mood for sex nowadays because of all the things happening in their lives. While this is understandable and makes perfect sense, there is still a problem here. Your sexual relationship will definitely suffer if you are hardly in the mood, so you need to do something about it. CHANGE YOUR STRATEGY.

How do we change strategy? Here are a few suggestions. There is the option of making a schedule for sex. Every week, we make the difficult decision of having to wake up, bathe, dress up and feed the kids and ourselves and then proceed to drop them off at school, and continue all the way to our work place. What stops us from working sex into our weekly schedules? It can be done and people are doing it. Surely, routine sex can’t be that tough! Hello! SEX IS FUN, remember? I know that some of you will argue that routine sex is not all that enjoyable. That is how it seems at first, but I can assure you that if every couple had routine sex a minimum of three times a week, our relationships will shed half the baggage it carries with it. If people had sex regularly, even if it was for five minutes a session, they wouldn’t feel so frustrated, neglected and unloved. Besides, scheduling sex is similar to scheduling dinner in a restaurant or scheduling going to the cinema on a weekend. It is exciting and it is something you look forward to. Fixing a time for something creates anticipation and excitement which puts you in the mood when the time comes. It is not difficult. It just requires commitment.

There are other ways of getting in the mood as well, but we will talk about just two of them in brief. One is through Movies and the other through Aphrodisiacs. As controversial as this might sound, there is no bigger turn-on than watching other people having sex. Movies are what I like to call ‘visual aphrodisiacs’. They put you in the mood instantly which is amazing. Oral aphrodisiacs such as Spanish fly and Herbal Viva also put you in the mood, wherever and whenever you want. But you must check with your doctor to confirm that you are healthy enough to take these supplements.

Now that we’ve seen the possibilities, let me share this scenario with you: this is a confession from a lady, in her own words, here is an excerpt; “this guy was so good in the art of love making. I have never had it that good in a long while. His ‘oral’ was out of this world, he made me climaxed several times. Because of this, I had to take him to my house, which I hardly do, cooked him a delicious Ogbono soup with Semo to go with, took him to an ice cream spot and bought one for him (a dead give-away). Still basking in the euphoria of what to expect from him later that day, I took him to my favorite spot where I bought him spiced-grilled catfish with chips (you have to earn it)….”
Damn! Guys that is some stuff for you to chew…lol. So you see the benefit of a good sex. It creates excitements. Makes you do imaginary things. I could go on and on and on. However, the benefits can not be over emphasized. In a nutshell, I strongly recommend that you give your sex life a lift and spice up your relationship.

Talk to you soon.
Morgan.